Tuesday, April 22, 2014

5 Simple Steps to Be a Super-Confident Leader

POSTED BY REGINA VAN DER HEYDEN
brokerbeatNewCanaan edited and reblogged Entrepreneur


Building confidence isn't always easy. In the social world, the simplest thing can be the most difficult of tasks, like saying hello to someone. But as an entrepreneur and leader, confidence isn't a choice. It's necessary for growing success.

Confidence isn't a tactical thing. It's an emotion. Just like any emotion - happiness, sadness, anger, etc. - it can be triggered and groomed, almost on-demand, through physical action. So in order to achieve that high level of confidence to push through the challenges and growing pains of running a business, here are things you must do:

1. Plan ahead while leaving room for spontaneity.

Socially, while strategies for how you'll meet potential friends are keys to increasing confidence, being aware of and open to inevitably unexpected opportunities can boost your confidence in spontaneity.

While your business needs a plan for both the short-term and long-term, the best thing about entrepreneurship is spontaneity. When you leave room for the unknown, you open yourself up to new possibilities that may be perfect for taking your business to the next level.

2. Listen before you speak.

I teach my clients the concept of "active listening," which is the key to carrying fun, engaging conversations that attract people around you without having to say much. How it works is simple: ask open-ended questions. After all, the point of conversation is to relate to someone. But the important part is listening to the answers. If you're not listening, you're not connecting.

Any answer someone gives you will contain bits of information called "hooks," golden nuggets waiting for you to use to relate to that person. In a world where distractions are all around, doing this effectively can show you are not only listening but also care about what the person is saying and enhancing the connection.

3. Pay attention to appearance.

When you're out mingling with potential new friends, how you dress and groom yourself can account for up to 25 percent of your overall presentation and is an easy way to positively stand out. The same is true in business.

Just because you may not be pitching an angel investor or VC everyday doesn't mean it's acceptable to look like a mess. You never know who you'll meet at any given moment and it's pivotal for your confidence to know you're looking good. You don't have to wear a suit, but even tech billionaire Mark Cuban does from time to time, even though he's not a fan.

4. Exercise.

A healthy body is a healthy mind, whether in the social or business world. Spend 10 to 30 minutes each day keeping your body in shape. It can improve everything from your posture and body language to your self-esteem and decision-making, especially during the most stress-induced situations. The endorphins you produce can not only build your confidence but also project it for others to see.

Achieving workout goals can give you a sense of accomplishment, momentum that can easily transfer to other aspects of your life. If you need a quick pump of adrenaline before an important meeting, working out just prior can provide the pop you're looking for.

5. Make sure to smile.
 
When I coach my clients on effective introductions, the first and last thing I say to them is to smile. Amy Cuddy, a social psychologist, gave a TED talk on how your body language can not only change how others see you but also how you see yourself. The easiest thing you can do to feel confident is smile, especially when your self-esteem is low. Even in the most strenuous of circumstances, smiling can put everyone around you, including yourself, at ease. Then, you're in a position of influence to make decisions people will trust.

Those who are the boldest and most confident may be the ones who get the dates and live an awesome social life, but they can also secure the meetings and the next greatest business deal. Make sure it's you, not your competition.
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Saturday, April 19, 2014

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Friday, April 18, 2014

Ways You're Sabotaging Your Mornings



POSTED BY REGINA VAN DER HEYDEN
brokerbeatNewCanaan
edited & reblogged Entrepreneur


If you’ve ever woken up on the wrong side of the bed or been frustrated in rush hour traffic, you know that mornings can set the tone for the rest of the day. While the morning is comprised of several hours, Hillary Rettig, a productivity coach for entrepreneurs and author of The 7 Secrets of the Prolific (Infinite Art, 2011) says the way you spend the first 15 minutes could make or break you.

“For many people, the morning holds our freshest, most energetic hours,” Rettig says. “Good time managers value ever smaller amounts of time. Those first few minutes of your day – both at home and when you get to the office – are vital.”

Doing low-value work during this precious time can put your day off course. Here are five things you may be doing in the morning that will sabotage your productivity:

1. Going online . Checking email or social media when you wake up is a common way to start the day, but those few minutes you think you’ll spend online often turn into an hour or more. Rettig suggests staying offline until 10 a.m.

It’s easy to get sucked into the vortex of the Internet,” Rettig says. “Protect the morning for the work that’s important to you, then be available for others later in the day.”

2. Turning on the television . For many people, the morning routine looks like this: Take a shower. Watch some TV. Eat breakfast. Watch some TV. Walk the dog. Watch some TV.


The television stretches out our morning ritual and distracts us from our mission,” Rettig says. “Don’t get anesthetized by the TV – leave it off.

If you need background noise, she says music on the radio is better. Save talk radio for your morning commute.

3. Skipping a workout . Procrastination begins in the body, says Rettig, and deskwork helps foster it. Morning exercise gets the blood flowing and makes you more alert. If you don’t like to sweat or can’t fit in a long routine, simply start your day by stretching, twisting or dancing.

It’s important to work out the stiffness in the body, especially if you sit all day,” she says."

4. Answering the phone . With caller ID, most of us have some idea who is calling when the phone rings. Unless you’re someone who handles crisis work or makes sales calls for a living, get the most out of your morning by turning off the phone, suggests Rettig.

The phone can be highly interruptive,” she says, adding that even short calls can distract you and take you off track.

5. Tackling busy or dreaded work first . While it can be tempting to “warm up” your day with busy work or your least favorite tasks, Rettig says it’s a better idea to start with something important that’s likely to yield a positive outcome.

For example, make the one or two sales calls you think are the most promising,” she says. “Accomplishments motivate you for the rest of the day.

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Regina van der Heyden is the principal of  brokerbeat New Canaan, and Exceptional Properties Specialist & Sales Vice President at William Raveis Real Estate, as well as both Top Listing and Top Selling Agent  .  To access the MLS, receive a free home evaluation, and/or subscribe to daily home listings updates, email regina.brokerbeat@gmail.com or call/text at 203.644.5025  .  Receive bbnc blog posts as they publish . Enter your email address in the subscription bar at the top right of this page, and click 'submit.'  Then, automatically  find daily bbnc posts in your email as they publish !!!   My best always   &:>

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